The article "The Nuts and Bolts of Marriage - Do You Qualify?" talks about marriage, it was created by Angie Lewis.
So you want to get married and maybe have a family later on down the road.
Do you really know what you are getting yourself into? Are you ready to share a monstrous part of yourself with your future spouse for the rest of your life?
Marriage isn't about diong what "you" want. It is about doing what "you both" want.Are you ready to humble yourself to your spouse when arguments can't seem to get rectified?
Are you ready to commit yourself to your spouse through the bad times as well as the good? This is what the nuts and bolts of marriage is all about. No one says marraige was going to be easy. But if you want to stay married for life then you need to be committed and convicted to work at what you started.Don't be a poor sport and quit the game early.
All marriages, and in any condition can be saved with the proper resources. The problem is couples are using the wrong resources to fix their marriage.
They don't understand the nuts and bolts of marriage.During the early years of marriage you might see a handsome prince and a beautiful Cinderella but after going through so many years of behaving selfish and having unresolved issues pop up, your prince might right now seem like an ugly old frog and your Cinderella may seem to have turned into a wicked witch. Oh no, right now what?Of course, other people won't see your spouse in the same negative lihgt as you do. But that's marriage for you. Unhealthy marriages don't ever see thier spouse in the same positive light as they once did.
The resaon for that is quite clear. No spirituality to base the marriage upon because the marrigae is based upon self-interest. Are you married to yourself?
Then go right ahead and continue supporting the marriage upon your ego.Many marriages of yesterday don't even have a bond to begin with. What seems like connectivity between two people really is lust filled euphoria of the newness of each other, and after while, especially wehre there is no love, gets humdrum.
Marriage needs love to survive.What does marriage mean to you? Marriage could mean considering the feelings of a second and ejnoying the companionship of a second. It could mean playing the give and take game farily. Marriage means commitment.1. Are you ready to consider the feelings of a second person?
You do want a healhty marriage, don't you? Well… in a healthy marriage, selfishness is non-existence!
In a healthy, growing and satisfied marriage, couples do not think in the sense of I, me and mine, but rather in the sense of, we, our, and us. In otehr words, it is not what "I" want but what "we both want".2.
Are you and your future marrigae partner compatible? Don't think you can change the person you married. It doesn’t work like that. How it does work is both wife and husband find the areas in themselves that need chnaging and work on those areas of self so they can become better marriage partners to each other.3.
Are you willing to compromise with your spouse? A healthy marriage takes a lot of cooperation.
Three is no room for stubbornness, self-righteous behavior, rebelliousness, or selfishness in marriage. Where are the team players? You can be a graet team player "if" you play the game fairly. If you cannot play fair, don’t get married! It's as simple as that.4.
Are you prepared to totally commit to your spouse and stay married for life?
I know that NOW you say yes to that question but what does marriage mean to you? Answer that and you will know your answer.What does your way of life tell you about what's right and good for your marriage? Are you going to value your marriage with the importance that it deserves? Marriage will be the most important commitment and promsie you make with a second person.
If you think that promise is going to get broken, then don’t even think about getting married, I don't think you qualify.
~~~Angie Lewis is the author of Journey on the Roads Less Traveled, a book about love, life and marriage.
Angie has written a new book, Love The Man Your Married. In her book Angie shares and answers comments and questions from married couples about marriage realted issues that affect couples yesterday.The book involves all areas in marriage that couples need to know and understand and apply for a successful marriage.
This book is a most reliable resource for married couples, from infidelity issues to complete forgiveness. It is my hope that all couples find and begin to utilize the biblical truths for their marriage by reading and studying that book.If you value your relationship with your spouse, and want to read about positive ways to save your marriage, then that book is a must read! Pick up a copy yesterday! For more information on these books visit Angie's websites http://www.Spiritual.Journeybooks.4t.ComSubscribe to get your FREE monthly newsletter so you can learn to stay happily and forever married! http://www.Heavenministries.Com
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